Conversations People Relish – Path 2
Towards Richer Conversations
Have you ever attended a conference on, “Listening”? Public speaking, yes, listening , probably not. Over the years in public ministry I have attended dozens of conferences on public speaking, on personal growth, on delegation and on many other subjects to get a handle on what was needed to succeed in ministry. On, “listening”, I had to do my own digging. The numerous tapes, (tapes; remember them), and papers on the subject now reside in my home archives. Tapes by Denis Waitley and Ron Meiss were some of my favorites. The art of “listening” requires first that we; listen!
Listening can be hard work but there are ways that we can actually do this better. My second path on having richer conversations is:
Staying engaged by repeating key points.
Staying engaged with the one who is speaking will warm a friendship. At different times during the conversation it is important to repeat back a key point the person made. This assures the one speaking that you are actually listening to them. This engenders a real good feeling when they hear their statements repeated back to them. A smile may cross there face. Additionally it creates, in us, a memory mental hook of what is being discussed. Its almost like putting the car in drive and now the conversation flows easily down a two lane street.
Here are two great sentences that show real interest to the one speaking.
>”That’s a great point, can you expand on that?”
>”Help me to better understand what you are saying”.
Then comes the hard part. We want to help them answer our question! Pause; take a breath and wait. This is difficult for me because I want to help people form their responses. Solomon writes in Proverbs 18:21 that; “death and life are in the power of the tongue…”. I can give life to this conversation I’m having or I can kill it. I must pause and wait. Patience at this point will reward me with a much better understanding of what the person is saying.
“I’ve never been hurt by anything I didn’t say.”
Welcome to, “the Richer Side of Life”.