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Shifting towards the richer side of life

Most likely only a few of us are really where we have aspired to be in life by this time. There may be a few fortunate ones that have everything figured out even before they get out of bed in the morning. That certainly is not me and perhaps is not you.

 Reality

 In the last post I discussed about admitting mistakes, this one deals with accepting reality. Hopefully what I share here will help us in shifting towards the richer side of life.

 “Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, Where are you?Genesis 3:9 (NKJV) emphasis mine.

 This is the first recorded question asked by God in the Bible. Certainly God knew geographically where Adam and Eve were located. His concern was more that their reality had dramatically changed. I know the biggest implication here is the entrance of sin into the world. But in a more personal sense to Adam and Eve it was a shout to them that their world had changed. Most importantly they themselves were the ones responsible for making this new reality. They had better prepare themselves for it!

 “Face reality as it is, not as you wish it to be.”  Peter Koestenbaum

 We do strange things when we are faced with a changed reality in our lives.

We:

  1. Deny it has changed.
  2. Judge others for causing the change.
  3. Despair grips us and we think this will always be our lot in life.

Reality looks at things as they actually exist. It is not, living in a fantasy world. When we accept and embrace our present reality as it is, only then will we be able to move forward. We should view reality as our friend. When we plan a trip to a far off destination, first we have to know from where our trip is beginning. If we do not know where we’re at presently, it does little good to just focus on our destination. So it is in our journey through life.

What is our present reality? Have we spent ourselves into debt? Did we offend a lifelong friend and lose their friendship? Or is it something we had no control over, like a sudden debilitating accident caused by a drunken driver? Perhaps it is a job loss, the list could go on. It is better to recognize where we are and then to begin moving from there to the reality we seek.

How can we embrace reality as our friend and not something to be ignored? Instead of denial, lets deliberately take the time needed to correctly identify the situation as it is. Then instead of placing blame on others, we can examine ourselves. Rather than falling into despair, it is better to seek inspiration by reading the Bible and strengthening relationships with good positive friends.

Welcome to The Richer Side of Life,

Richard Armstrong

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Admit Mistakes

Rich Sense

Shifting towards the richer side of life

Well it finally happened, I’ve climbed into my seventy-first year. Then retirement on May 31 of 2013  has opened time for walks in the afternoon sunset hours. Enjoying it immensely, I really do.

I live my life in chapters. Just as in a book when I finish reading a chapter I don’t throw the book away, no, I simply turn the page. So it is in life. Many chapters have been lived and in each I celebrate the joys and struggle through the disappointments. Each chapter has added a richness to my life’s history. So it is that I have come to capture some; Rich Sense and am Shifting towards the richer side of life. Over the next weeks and months I’ll be sharing some “sense” with you on these pages. Please read with an open mind and remember that I am well aware that I do not have a hold on all wisdom, just some rich bits and pieces.

So Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.  Moses writing in Psalms 90 verse 12.

The richer side of life. What do I mean by that? Here’s a thought. We each have a limited number of days to live, just don’t know how many we have. But each day we have grants us an opportunity to “shift” towards the correct way to live. There are some internal shifts that we can make, if we are willing to do so, that will greatly enhance our lives. The first shift I want to mention is; Mistakes.

Admit Mistakes, we all make them, I surely have quite a pile in my history and you probably do too. I have observed it is best to admit them and take full and complete ownership for those I have made. And the sooner, the better.

Three illogical ways we deal with our mistakes.

We ignore them

We blame others for them

We will not admit we made them!

Mistakes made in the past do not make you; unless you allow them to do so!

To simply ignore something does not delete it from the scheme of life. To shift the blame onto another does not get rid of the mistake, it only intensifies the scope of the problem. As long as we do not take the full weight of our mistake onto our own lack of judgement we will never move forward. It is like driving a car while always looking in the rear view mirror, you will crash! I’m not suggesting that you ignore your mistake, just take care to “fess up”, apologize, then make the corrections needed and move on. Take the time necessary to understand why the mistake was made, but don’t live there. 

You will be the richer for it. I like to say; The past is not a prophet, at best it is only a teacher. Oh the freedom we experience when we say, “I was wrong” with no“buts” added.

Welcome to The Richer Side of Life.

Blessings,

Richard Armstrong